Ruler of the 11th House in the 7th House

Allies, partners and shared hopes

The 11th house describes friends, allies, patrons and hopes, and its ruler tells you how they are met. Placed in the 7th house, which Hellenistic authors called the Setting place because it is where the Sun goes down, it works through the other person: a spouse, a business partner, a client, any single other whom you face. Friends are made in twos.

The 7th is the ninth place from the 11th, counting the 11th as the first, which makes a trine. The ruler sees the house it rules without difficulty, and the connection between partnership and friendship flows. A wedding brings in a whole circle, and a good friendship may grow into a partnership. Check the planet and its sign. A Venus ruler fits the 7th house naturally and makes the partner a friend and ally in one person, and a Jupiter ruler adds generosity and a patron's backing. A Mars or Saturn ruler makes the partner a sparring friend, or a source of restraint.

A partner's circle, a circle of two

You are likely to meet friends through your partner and to meet partners through friends. A spouse may be among your closest allies, and long relationships often keep a friendly tone beneath the romance. Business partnerships suit you, especially where partners share a group of clients or supporters.

Hopes are made in company. You prefer to plan the future with another person instead of dreaming alone, and what you want for the next ten years tends to blend with what your partner wants. This can be a real gift: two people with a shared aim go further than one. It can also mean that your wish list gets quiet when there is no partner to share it with.

One-to-one friendship is a strength. You listen well, you remember what a friend said last month, and you can sit through a long conversation without a crowd.

A circle of your own

The weak side is dependence. If the ruler is strained, your friends may all be your partner's, and a separation costs you both the relationship and the circle. Hopes can drift toward the partner's goals and leave your own unfinished.

Maturity means keeping a few friends who belong to you alone, and a hope or two that you would pursue without a partner. Ask early in any relationship who the shared friends are and who are yours. The ruler itself shows how to do it: Mercury suggests keeping up correspondence, Saturn suggests a few old friendships kept deliberately warm. Done well, the trine keeps partnership and friendship supporting each other, and neither one carries the whole load.